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EXAMPLES FROM HUSBANDS.

THE FOLLOWING ITEMS HAVE BEEN USEFUL TO HUSBANDS WHO HAVE PARTICIPATED IN LIVING ABOVE SUSPICION CONTRACTS IN THE PAST:

• I would like my wife to stop watching soap operas during the day because I think that is one habit that affects the overall fidelity in our marriage.
• I will change my job and get out of a line of work and environment that is conducive to inappropriate material or conversation. I would appreciate my wife’s support in this.
• I want knowledge of my difficulties and this situation to be shared with a mutually agreed upon group of people.
• I would like my wife and me to be able to go out once a week and not have to talk about this problem. I want moments when we can enjoy one another or focus on other things.
• I want to be able to hold my wife’s hand or give her a hug and not be turned away.
• I want for us to participate in spiritual practices such as prayer, scripture study, and fasting as a couple.
• When my wife expresses feelings about this situation or about me, I want name-calling eliminated.
• I would like to join a sports league in order to focus attention in healthy ways and socialize with men in appropriate settings.
• I would like to be able to share what I am learning in therapy on my own terms.